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Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Refrigerator Pickles




I haven't been my regular canning self that I typically am this time of year.  Since I moved back to Telluride my plants still look about the same size that they did when I planted them.  But as I went to the veggie stand to buy my produce in town, I saw pickling cucumbers and had an intense craving of fresh pickles.  I had pinned a recipe that I have been wanting to make for some time.  My family can go through a huge jar of pickles in a couple of days!





Let me tell you what!  If you crave pickles, then you should make a batch of these.  It's super easy and they taste amazing.

Here's the recipe that I used - Click HERE

I tweaked the recipe a little bit though.

I changed the ratios of the vinegar broth.

2 cups apple cider vinegar
1 cup rice vinegar
9 cups water
1/3 cup of salt
3 T sugar

I also added peppercorns in the bottom of my jars too!

Enjoy!!


Thursday, August 21, 2014

Run Your Own Race... a dreamer's story

I thought that I would spend a little time writing about how I got here.  Well, to the place of Marmie Lingerie.  I have so many passions and loves and interests. It's hard to always just pick one.  I'm a dreamer and a doer.  

My first business, Ginger Magnolia Catering, was an amazing experience that I started with my best friend.  It was our shared passion of cooking together and our need to have something more than just being a mom & the household chores.  At that time life was just hard.  Andy was gone all the time working so far away, we had marital problems, and we were in a new town.  I just felt like I needed something/someone to give me that zest of life that I had been missing.  So a beautiful business and friendship bloomed.  I loved it and I will always, always have a passion for food.  One day I know that I will do something in this field again.  Writing a cookbook or several has always been on my bucket list.  After my partner moved away and the business was just mine, that zest diminished.  Then adding on top of that a third pregnancy, repeatedly losing my commissary kitchen due to the restaurants going out of business and then not having a staff since I couldn't provide full time work - just kept me in a feeling of extreme overwhelm.  Fortunately, my husband's business was doing well so he carefully suggested that I just be mom for a while.  It felt like such a relief to be given permission to fail.  Even though it wasn't really a failure because my business was doing so amazing but the timing was off for me.  It was just too difficult to do it all.

Mehana & I having more fun than working

During that time, I had also started sewing purses and had a second full-time job on top of raising a young family.  I loved loved creating Marmie Bags.  It was another outlet and direction for my creativity.  I had so many big dreams with this business.  I had hoped to transition from catering which had so many conflicts that I couldn't control to making bags and creating a brand and global business.  But after two years of working my tail off, it ended up being a really expensive & time consuming hobby.  I had to make some decisions.  I really enjoyed creating and connecting but I would have to manufacture thousands of bags to keep costs low and to really see any kind of profit.  The math just didn't make it possible to move forward plus the amount of time that it took to sew each purse completely consumed my days.  Therefore, I phased out the purses.  That also felt like another failure but I had to evaluate what my time was worth to me and to my family and especially after two years of not seeing any real profit or promise of a future profit.  My intention also with this business was to be big enough to make a difference.  To use the brand of Marmie to create a project that could make an impact on people.

My first Marmie bags photo shoot

What I found during this time was Writing!  I just loved it.  I just kept writing and writing which then led me to really examine myself.  What was my life's purpose?  Why am I here?  What am I supposed to be doing and for the sake of what?

My life's purpose is to help people.  To show them how wonderful they all are.  To love them and tell them that sometimes life is just too hard but that it's worth it all. That the darkness is just as important as the light.  To show them that they matter.  To also show myself that I matter.  I want to help change the world.  I want to empower women.  I want them to love themselves.  

It's a wonderful feeling to know what your life's purpose is.  Do you know yours?  Write it down.  Read it out loud.  

So, in this journey of mine I have actually found way more than I thought that I had lost.  Once you know the why, the path to get there just presents itself.  And if that road becomes closed then just pick a new one.  There are so many different ways that I can make a difference and fulfill my life's purpose.

Marmie Lingerie has been a business idea that I've had for years.  But for some reason I kept trying to get different friends to do it.  Again, I think timing is everything.  I think that at that time I didn't know my purpose and I was just trying to find that zest that I talked about earlier.  I also was lacking in a little confidence in myself.  Here's a little secret about me:  I am terrified of public speaking!  So, the thought of formally getting up before a crowd leaves me so anxious and nervous.  Plus, I am a TERRBILE, AWFUL BLUSHER.  But through Three Graces (community outreach program for women that I started with 2 other ladies), I have slowly been conquering that fear.  I'm still afraid though and am still a bad blusher but I'm not going to let that fear stop me.



So by taking the time to withdraw and pull in and work on myself, my writing (blog) and my family.  It opened up some space and time to let the light in.  I saw this quote above when I was searching on my Pinterest for inspirational quotes using the word "Courage".  I am devoting myself to the idea of helping and empowering women.  This is my dream! And while looking for encouraging words I stumbled across this phrase that I had never heard before and now I see it everywhere.  

RUN YOUR OWN RACE




This is such a great motto. Life is so much like a marathon.  Have you ever done any long distance running?  You have to get over that initial hump and chatter in your head that says I can't do it.  And then it's like you could run forever.  You get this steady pace and there isn't anyone else running with you.  It's weird but I just can't run next to anyone even when I've tried.  It's not a competition with anyone.  It's just you and the road.  The only competition is you and your thoughts.  I hope all the runners make it and if one falls you stop and help them up.  It's the best feeling when you get to the finish line.  

I have lots of metaphors for my life.  I'm adding this one too.  I think I'll even put a post it of it on my bathroom mirror.  So, you see when you get real clear with your intentions and your perception of reality then you'll see that there's nothing to worry about.  I trust in the unfolding of time and what the Universe and God will bring to me.  I have my Three Graces group that is already fulfilling my mission and my purpose.  It is almost a year of our group and is really blooming! I started back in February trying to make Marmie Lingerie happen and just wasn't getting anywhere with making contact with the Paris Lingerie company.  I just stopped pushing and focused back on my family and moving.  And then once I got all settled in and the timing was just right - all of a sudden the representatives starting emailing me back.  It really is so cool how it happens that way.   

I am putting it out there that after working regionally with Marmie Lingerie and impacting and touching the lives of lots of women that I could spread the love further and further.  Maybe one day being a global brand and sending my message everywhere.  Teaching women to truly love themselves.  I want them all to be able to say and believe "I am beautiful. I am love.  I am the light."  And even maybe design and create my own line of lingerie one day.

Dream BIG.  Trust in Yourself.  Be Clear of Your Intentions. Run Your Own Race.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

A {Blue} Birthday Party

My little Evelyn Blue turned 3 yesterday and she loves everything BLUE because she's Evelyn Blue. This year for her party she said she just wanted a Blue Birthday.  With the moving and unpacking into the new house, my motivation level for the party was way below par.  I didn't even come up with games to do until about a hour or two before the party started.  But she's 3 so it's all good.

But I was pretty happy with the small things that I did do.  Evelyn helped me decide on the cake, punch and ice cream.  We did a Southern Style Strawberry Cake with Blue Cream Cheese Icing, a Blue Sorbet Punch and Blueberry Ice Cream.  I served the kids on my blue trimmed little plates and cut crystal punch glasses.  They were all very excited about the fancy dishes (even the boys).


We ended up playing:

Duck Duck Goose
Freeze Dance 
Dance Off
Hokey Pokey (2 times because she loved it so much)


Southern Style Strawberry Cake

1 (18.5 ounce) box white cake mix
1 (3 ounce) package strawberry jello
1 Tablespoon self rising flour
4 teaspoons granulated sugar
3/4 cup vegetable oil
4 eggs
1/2 cup water

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.

Combine cake mix, Jello, flour and sugar in a large bowl.  Mix well.  Add the oil & add the eggs one at a time, beating well after each addition then add the water and mix.  Divide the batter evenly into three 8-inch round baking pans that have been oiled and floured.  Bake for 25-35 minutes, or until a tooth pick inserted into the center of the cakes comes out clean and the layers pull away from the sides of the pan.

Transfer the layers from the oven to wire racks.  Let them cool, still in their pans, for 10 minutes.  After 10 minutes, run a knife around the inside edge of each pan, then unmold each layer onto the racks to cool completely.  I like to flash freeze my layers before frosting them.

Cream Cheese Frosting

1 (8 ounce) block cream cheese, softened
2 sticks (8 ounces) unsalted butter, softened
2 (1 pound) boxes powdered sugar
pinch of salt
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
blue food coloring
Blueberries
Sprinkles


To make the frosting, in a bowl combine the cream cheese and butter.  Beat until soft and pliable and no lumps remain.  Add one box of the powdered sugar, salt and vanilla extract.  Beat until incorporated.  Add the second box of sugar and mix until incorporated.  If you would like a smoother consistency add a splash of milk.  If you would like a thicker consistency, and a bit more powdered sugar until the desired consistency is achieved.  Then add the food coloring.  Frost the cake and garnish with blueberries and sprinkles.



Blue Sorbet Punch

Get the Recipe HERE

And here is the delicious Blueberry Ben & Jerry's Frozen Yogurt that we had.




Tuesday, August 5, 2014

2 Things to a Lasting Marriage ++ a recipe


Today marks our 14th year being married and 19 years together.  Next year, we are due for a big celebration!  It's been a road that has had lots of joys, tears and lessons.  But that's life and that is surely marriage.  I've been thinking about what makes a marriage last because we have had our share of stuff that would rip most marriages apart.  So, what is it that makes us stick it out and all the other marriages that last compared to the ones that don't.  I come from a family that has both lasting marriages and divorces.  So, I have witnessed and experienced both.

I think it boils down to only 2 things that distinguish a marriage that lasts compared to ones that don't.


1)  You and your partner are both willing to improve yourselves.  You are both willing to admit your flaws and work on them.  You both want to "Do the Work".  I read in a book by Harville Hendrix that said "your partner isn't here to make you happy if given the chance your partner is here to help you fix your wounds of a lifetime".  I just love that!  If you can stick with the hard times, you both can heal each other.  The key here is BOTH.  From my experience, most failed marriages are from only one person or neither one wanting to improve and the saying " F* off.  I am how I am. Deal or Leave."  I am blessed to be in a partnership where we are both up for healing and being the best selves that we can be.


2)  The other type of lasting marriage is the one that reminds me of my grandparents.  They both disliked a lot of things with the other but they both accepted the other's flaws.  And they both loved each other anyway.  It's the mentality of "I made my bed and now I have to lay in it."  I don't necessarily prescribe to this personally but it does work for a lot of other people.  Some people have some wounds that are so great and so big that it is just too hard or they don't have the tools/knowledge of how to make things better.  My grandfather fought as a foot soldier in WW2 and had to do horrible things.  My grandmother said that he still woke up with nightmares until the day he died which was at an old age.  Even though this approach doesn't necessarily work for my marriage, I totally respect this because I don't have those types of wounds.  It's the mind set that "Yeah, he/she has some really messed up ways but, I choose to love anyway.  I choose to stick with it anyway."

So, there you have it.  The 2 secrets to a lasting marriage from me who maybe doesn't know it all but who is learning and loving along the way.


 And Happy Happy Anniversary to my love, Andy.  I'm looking forward to the many many years to come with you.  So, here is a recipe for one of his favorite things : Pina Colada Cheesecake.  And if you liked this article, you have to also read 15 Ways to be Married for 15 years.


Sunday, July 27, 2014

Healing After the Affair Coaching

First of all I just want to say if you are reading this and are trying to heal after an affair, I am so sorry for the pain that you are feeling.  It is an awful, awful feeling.  But, I am glad that you are reaching out to find your joy again and heal your broken heart.  Five years ago, my husband also had an affair and it completely devastated me.  Through a lot of counseling, crying, soul searching and "doing the work", my husband and I have been able to rebuild a wonderful marriage and partnership. Since healing from the affair, it has really given me another purpose in life which is to help, inspire and teach.  I had such a hard time finding couples who had survived an affair and wanted to share their story and support.  Affairs are so secretive and make people uncomfortable to talk about.  I want to offer that guidance and support for other couples who want to "Do the Work" and create an amazing and better marriage.  It is possible if you are both willing! 

I have written a lot of articles on my blog about healing your heart and finding your true self.  I have even contemplated on writing an ebook about it too.  But, it feels so right and good to first help and offer my open ear and shoulder for others who have been betrayed and who feel hopeless.  

Here is my offer to you:
  • Email me at amarmielife@gmail.com to introduce yourself and your story.  I will respond back with love and support.  This introduction is free of charge.
  • If you feel like my support is helping you, then I will send you a Paypal invoice to continue our work together.

Fee Schedule

Plan A : 4 Email Exchanges $100 plus tools and articles for motivation and encouragement, answers to questions, plus follow-up from me

Plan B : 2 Email Exchanges $75 plus tools and articles for motivation and encouragement, answers to questions, plus follow-up from me

Plan C : 1 Year Monthly newsletter subscription offering love, support, advice and tools to rebuild a better marriage. $25

Friday, July 25, 2014

Reclaiming What You Avoid


I've been sitting on writing this post for several months now.  I feel like the words are now on my tongue or actually on my fingers.  It's the time especially after participating in an Equine Therapy class this past weekend that really empowered me & encouraged me to use my voice.

Has something happened to you and then you avoid things that remind you of the pain?  It could have been from losing someone, a betrayal, a bad experience, or maybe it isn't even your memory but someone else's.

And now you find yourself changing the radio when a certain song comes on, not being able to eat a certain food, go to a particular place, buy a particular brand or thing, maybe even take a different route to get to somewhere.  There are so many little things like this that I had found myself doing.  And then all of a sudden it just kinda dissipated and I realized that I wasn't doing it anymore. I was owning it again.

Time does help but so does a mindset and your perception.  I read somewhere once that you should wear a rubber band around your wrist and every time that you start to do something that isn't a good choice for you then you should snap that rubber band super hard on your wrist.  I thought that was kinda funny and a good mental tool.  But I had also been using it to avoid.  Avoid places that reminded me of bad memories and songs that made me cry and even clothes that had a logo that pissed me off.  It sounds a little silly when writing it. I was snapping that rubber band to not be - to have fear.

The other thing that helps is by changing how you want to look at things.  I have always said that sometimes gifts come in shitty packages.  It is so true.  So all of a sudden I said I am taking back my power - my voice.  I am stepping back into it and not allowing these silly things that I avoid be a part of my life anymore.  I am buying that thing.  I am driving on that road that I would detour.  I am going to that place.  I am listening to that song.  I am wearing that shirt.

I AM.

I am changing my thoughts.  I am snapping that rubber band for the things I avoided and for the things that don't serve me.  I have the choice and the power in my mind to choose whatever thought that I want.  If I continue to do this then I will create a new neuro-pathway.  I am taking back my truth.  The real truth.  The only truth.  I am rewriting old ways and writing a new story.  Old pains that aren't relevant because it is NOW.

What are things that you avoid?  Why are you holding on to it?  How is it serving you?  Is it bringing you happiness?  Is it even really the truth?


Step into your power and take back your voice of love and truth.  I like to believe in magic because it's the best way to describe what happens when you open your eyes.  Each day is a new beginning to let it go.  So, here we go.




Thursday, July 24, 2014

Vegetable Broth Recipe

The other day I realized that I had a lot of veggies that were starting to look a little tired for eating but weren't quite ready to be thrown out.  That's when I like to throw them all in a big pot to make vegetable broth.  I prefer to use vegetable broth over chicken broth in almost all of my recipes.  To me, it feels like it adds more flavor - a more complex & interesting flavor to dishes.  Every time I make mine it is completely different depending on what I have in the fridge.

Then, I strain out all the goodies and freeze the broth in ice cube trays.  That way I can pop them out for later uses.



Vegetable Broth

celery
carrot
onion
zucchini
tomato
fennel
bell pepper
broccoli
garlic
peppercorns
marjoram
bay leaf
tamari
*plus any other herbs or veggies that you have on hand

I roughly cut up the vegetables and leave the peel and stems on because I will end up straining it all out and throwing it away.  I fill the pot of veggies with water and bring to a boil.  Then I turn it down to medium heat and cook it for several hours.  The broth will start to concentrate and get a darker brown.  Right at the end I like to add a little tamari for salt and flavor.  Then strain out the veggies.  Fill ice cube trays to freeze.  The next day pop the ice cubes into a zip loc bag for later use.




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